Withholding Praise Part 1 - Setup And What The Bible Says About It with Chris Decker & John Rizzi
For one reason or another, people sometimes have difficulty praising each other, choosing instead to tear each other down. This is called Withholding Praise, another symptom of intimacy anorexia that our duo, John Rizzi and Chris Decker will attempt to break down. In this episode of The Recovery Lifestyle podcast, Chris and John shed light on the makings of Withholding Praise using words lifted directly from the Bible, for only when we truly know the problem can we truly find its cure.
HIGHLIGHTS
What does 'Withholding Praise' look like?
Words of affirmation should not be used for manipulation
The power of words, according to the Bible
Withholding Praise can come from a place of false humility
Lift people up instead of tearing them down
QUOTES
John on the difference between words of affirmation and manipulation: "I think we need to keep in mind that this is not a tool for manipulation. I think that as addicts, we can use a lot of good things manipulatively because we're selfish and we want to get what we want, we often will tell people what we think what they want to hear in order to get what we want from them."
John on intentionally focusing on positive things: "We're fond of pointing out that we typically find what we're looking for. And when we're looking for the negative, we find it. So we need to be more intentional about looking for the praiseworthy things that our wives do and then pointing them out."
Chris on having difficulty receiving praise leading to withholding praise: "There's been times when my wife is giving me genuine, observational compliments about my character or something about me, and I won't receive it. And I think that's the same intimacy anorexia as withholding saying something nice to her too. It's rooted in the same thing."
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For one reason or another, people sometimes have difficulty praising each other, choosing instead to tear each other down. This is called Withholding Praise, another symptom of intimacy anorexia that our duo, John Rizzi and Chris Decker will attempt to break down. In this episode of The Recovery Lifestyle podcast, Chris and John shed light on the makings of Withholding Praise using words lifted directly from the Bible, for only when we truly know the problem can we truly find its cure.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What does 'Withholding Praise' look like?
- Words of affirmation should not be used for manipulation
- The power of words, according to the Bible
- Withholding Praise can come from a place of false humility
- Lift people up instead of tearing them down
QUOTES
John on the difference between words of affirmation and manipulation: "I think we need to keep in mind that this is not a tool for manipulation. I think that as addicts, we can use a lot of good things manipulatively because we're selfish and we want to get what we want, we often will tell people what we think what they want to hear in order to get what we want from them."
John on intentionally focusing on positive things: "We're fond of pointing out that we typically find what we're looking for. And when we're looking for the negative, we find it. So we need to be more intentional about looking for the praiseworthy things that our wives do and then pointing them out."
Chris on having difficulty receiving praise leading to withholding praise: "There's been times when my wife is giving me genuine, observational compliments about my character or something about me, and I won't receive it. And I think that's the same intimacy anorexia as withholding saying something nice to her too. It's rooted in the same thing."
Want to share feedback or need a prayer request? Please visit https://recoverylifestyle.com/contact to reach out!
